When I first started working at my first ever job, I learned a lot from my older and more experienced colleagues. Whether it was work-related or adult-life-related, they taught me a lot. If my canvas was blank when we first met, by the first month I worked there, I was full of colours.
Throughout the many lessons they gave me, there's this phrase they kept saying: "Don't do this, do it this way, I learned this the hard way". They learned a lot of things the hard way, and they basically gave me the shortcut to the right way of doing things. So I won't make the same mistakes that they did, or so I thought.
Now, after over 2 years of working and full-on adulting, I've learned that there are lessons you're meant to learn the hard way, even if you know every tip, hack or cheat by heart. No matter how much people, or even yourself, try to shelter you from learning through making mistakes, the mistakes you're bound to make will always find their way to you. Some lessons, it seemed, cannot be learned from cautionary tales. Some shortcuts are not meant for you to take, and you have to go the long way to get to where you're meant to be... And that's okay. That's very human.
I've been going through things and doing things the wrong way, and they have been eating at me. From I was little, I have not liked to do things twice. I want to do things perfectly from the get-go, and whenever I don't, I get stressed out. Which also gives me the problem of starting things if I don't think I would do them perfectly. That's a thing I'm working on this year, to start things despite not knowing how the outcome will be, because that's simply the process of learning.
The lessons you're meant to learn the hard way will come the hard way, no matter how much you try to avoid them. May as well expedite the commencement.
As usual, I get self-reflective after going through things. All things aside, it's March! Ramadan Mubarak, and may this Ramadan be our best.
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